After break-up, why would you jump into a new relationship?

July 28, 2009 - 7:08 pm 12 Comments

I’m just wondering why you would jump into a new relationship after a breakup? I’m talking about within weeks? Especially if you dated someone for a year or more.

That happens a lot and I think to myself the same question.
I think it is because people are so used to having someone with them, depending on someone, having someone to call whenever you need them, and having someone to make them feel special, that they think that jumping into a new relationship is going to fill the new gap that has been made by losing their partner.
This could actually have the reverse effect because chances are, they arent ready to completely move on. They didnt take the time to heal and just enjoy themselves.

It is a way that confuses me very much. If me and my partner broke up, I know that i would not be fully ready to try on a new relationship in a few weeks. i would miss having my best friend and lover, yes, but i wouldnt try to replace them after a couple weeks.

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12 Responses to “After break-up, why would you jump into a new relationship?”

  1. Savanah D Says:

    It usually helps people cope with the pain if they’re with someone.
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  2. Laina Says:

    Rebound. Most people are so used to being with someone (especially for that long) and they feel the need to fill that void.
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  3. PhaseHere Says:

    To cope with pain and to REBOUND
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  4. stripedspider Says:

    No. It wouldn’t be fair to the new person as they would just be rebound. I would get myself in order first and make sure I was over my ex before I got involved with someone else.
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  5. theluvguru Says:

    allot of people do that in efforts to block out the emotional stress they are going through because of a breakup. It’s called rebound, it works for awhile, until they realize they don’t like the person at all. But by then have already gotten themselves into heaps of controversy.
    Its best to deal with a breakup in self help ways, not ‘please help me!’ ways.
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  6. BabeHeart Says:

    I don’t personally, because I feel it’s a poor move, unfair to the next person I date, and I’m generally not interested in anyone until I’m over my most recent attachment.

    However, some people do it to help them move on. They care little about the feelings of the person they are dating, but just want someone to distract them from their ex so they can forget that last attachment. It’s terribly unfair to the new person they are dating, and why most rebound relationships don’t work. Usually the two people aren’t a very good match….it was just someone to fill in the gap while their heart mended. Bad karma.
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  7. atomic ant Says:

    nop, need to take some time,
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  8. Gil Says:

    Nothing like getting back on the bike after falling off, same goes for relationships. I would say however, that going into a fulll blown relationship would be fraught with danger. Some heavy dating would be a plus though.
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  9. ~DJ Sammy J~ Says:

    They are trying to fill that void in there life by attempting to move on.
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  10. rayderjoe Says:

    Yeah sometimes you need to feel needed. Just be carful cuz a lot of time your not in it for the right reasons at the time your still hurting.
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  11. Taija M Says:

    That happens a lot and I think to myself the same question.
    I think it is because people are so used to having someone with them, depending on someone, having someone to call whenever you need them, and having someone to make them feel special, that they think that jumping into a new relationship is going to fill the new gap that has been made by losing their partner.
    This could actually have the reverse effect because chances are, they arent ready to completely move on. They didnt take the time to heal and just enjoy themselves.

    It is a way that confuses me very much. If me and my partner broke up, I know that i would not be fully ready to try on a new relationship in a few weeks. i would miss having my best friend and lover, yes, but i wouldnt try to replace them after a couple weeks.
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  12. Jimmy Says:

    That’s life. When you get knocked down you can stay there and get kicked all over the sidewalk or you can get up brush yourself off and live and love again. It;s up to you. It’s like the story of the guy who is walking down the street with his friend and sees a pretty girl and goes up tp her and asks for a kiss.. She slaps him across the face. His friend looks at him and says "You must get slapped a lot": The guy says"Yes I do but I get kissed a lat too"
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