What are some healthy ways to get over a break up, Christian advice very welcome?

July 18, 2009 - 10:44 pm 33 Comments


Believe that God has a purpose and a plan for your life, and that He knows exactly what you’re going through. If you trust Him and obey Him, He will not let you down. He can give you peace and hope for your future.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Proverbs 3:5-6 With all your heart you must trust the LORD and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow.

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33 Responses to “What are some healthy ways to get over a break up, Christian advice very welcome?”

  1. v72 Says:

    pray for comfort and strength and after 2 mos consider dating again.
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  2. Pants Party III Says:

    Most importantly focus on yourself. Exercise, go do something to improve your house, or your car, get a new hobby

    or go get really drunk and find some strange at the bar
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  3. Karina Says:

    start seeing other guys or something
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  4. Max Says:

    drink a lot of alcohol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  5. americankilla Says:

    Go to church and pray I guess.
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  6. Punky (Punk Atheist) Says:

    I told you not to bring up your beliefs. Just give it time. And maybe stop leaving pet rabbits in boiling water.
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  7. I Wuv You Wots Says:

    What does being christian have to do with break ups?

    Don’t ask them about divorce, though. That’s a touchy subject for them.

    *rolls eyes*
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  8. Jake Says:

    it doesn’t have anything to do with being christian, you just need to tell the person it’s not going to work out and that you believe that you will both do better going your separate ways
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  9. Architect Says:

    Get busy and fall in love with whatever you’re getting busy with .
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  10. Bibigirl Says:

    Focus on what the Lord has for you. He has the perfect mate made just for you, ask Him for that person.
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  11. Carton Size Says:

    There’s no guide to it really. With time, it will fade, during that time it’s best to do things that might take your mind off it. Maybe find a new hobby.
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  12. Matt Says:

    do nothing. lead your life in whatever way makes sense.
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  13. Lemonade Says:

    Bible time is the best time!
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  14. Haley Says:

    go out with your friends alot, try not to just sit around and do nothing becuase then you will end up thinking about the person. try and do things to keep your mind off of it.
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  15. Flower Says:

    Well you know God is there for you (Christian advice ; ) ) and all you need is him to get through tough times and just spend time with your friends they always are there to comfort you and thats why you have friends to catch you when your down.
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  16. Billy Monster Says:

    Don’t jump into the next relationship you can, aka a rebound.

    Don’t cut off communication with the person you broke up with, even though from your standpoint it’s easier, it’s very unhealthy and damaging to you in the long run.

    Try to keep your mind occupied at all costs, especially when you begin to think about your partner.

    Try your hardest to keep from thinking, "this reminds me of him/her…", and enjoy everything you once did.

    And if you disagree with me, you sir are worse than Hitler.
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  17. Dan Says:

    well… just try to get back into the dating scene. or just leave your self open to bigger and better things
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  18. Hellooooooo Says:

    Do not sit at home and think only of them/him/her. Do not go where you two enjoyed hanging out. Get active with other people, other places. Time really is a good healer. Do not just expect the guy to return, it might not be the right person for ya.
    Sit down and write a list of the kind of things you will only accept in a person
    Write a second list of the things that could or could not be the most serious.
    Stick to the list. My daughter says, rewrite the list periodically, as you mature and grow up, it will change.
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  19. Bar-bar Says:

    You could hang out with friends and go places like to the movies or out to a bar or bowling. The best thing is not to get depressed and have the time to think about the break up. The more fun you are having the better it will be to move on. You can go see a comedy club. You can go to the beach if there is one near you.
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    experience

  20. Katmandu Says:

    Think of it as a crumby job you interviewed for, but didn’t get. Feel relief.
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  21. wispy Says:

    Stop dwelling upon your problems and turn your energy into service for others!
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  22. EJ Says:

    write a song about your faith, pray to God, know that He still loves you no matter what. God will get you through this, and reading the Bible will take your mind off of this breakup, and get you back into more important, spiritual things. Really, though, write a song. I write songs about my faith and other things all the time, and even if you can’t sing, just reading the lyrics will make you feel so much better!

    Bless you!
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  23. Dai D Says:

    Do whatever it takes to make yourself good. Just don’t turn to tubs of ice-cream and soppy love movies. Try hot baths and jogs. And if you have a dog, play with it. My dog always make me happy when I’m sad.

    And remember that God will always be with you no matter what and he will never abandon you.

    Good Luck
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  24. Heidelzbth Says:

    move on, cry your tears, but move on. The best way is to get back on the horse again, start going out with some girlfriends, find activities that take your mind off of him/her. Don’t think about what could have been, what went wrong, what you could have done better. Get your closure and move on. Only you can get thru this, it is a personal experience, so grieve, mourn the loss of the relationship, but move on with your life, concentrate on the good. Best of luck
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    Agnostic Atheist ~~> I don’t know, but i don’t believe

  25. Ninja Joe Says:

    Get over it, there nothing you can do about it so why be sad?
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  26. lil_sprite_77 Says:

    Believe that God has a purpose and a plan for your life, and that He knows exactly what you’re going through. If you trust Him and obey Him, He will not let you down. He can give you peace and hope for your future.

    Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

    Proverbs 3:5-6 With all your heart you must trust the LORD and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow.
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  27. william c Says:

    Have faith that you will meet the right person at the right time> You will know if it is right. Love and lust are so close together that it is hard to tell the difference. Time huney Time
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    I have been though the same thing many times.

  28. pollyparrot_96 Says:

    You could ask a few of your friends from church to go bowling or go shopping or just go out for a drive
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  29. hairypotto Says:

    Nothing of any importance can be taught. It can only be learned, and with blood and sweat.”
    Robert Anton Wilson
    Breaking up with the church is a good first step to a real relationship with God. Study all religions. Read all the arguments pro and con for each one and like a buffet pick and choose the parts that make sense to you. Religion is a map (albeit a somewhat outdated one that only points out the permanent points of interest) Spirituality is the territory. Do not mistake the map for the territory! Once you get there it’ll be different from what the maps tell you ’cause you’ll have your baggage along and be looking at it through your eyes not anyone else’s. God’s waiting for you but God is very patient God has all of eternity and so do you.
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  30. Leslie H Says:

    I used aversion therapy. I used to picture my ex-husband, tall, blonde, and then picture him getting drenched in liquid human waste. Just thinking about getting close to that cured me. Twenty eight years later, that’s still the picture that comes to mind if I think of him.
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    Gary-Was that you who gave me a thumbs down?? Get over it, 28 years is a long time to pine for someone, even for you.

  31. Mommy to be Sept 09! Says:

    Try and get your mind off it…watch movies, call up friends..just keep yourself busy. Also keep in prayer ask for God to help you through this time. Join a singles club thing at a church..they have them!
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  32. section hand Says:

    Ask God what Mission He has for You;
    If You are Looking ,He will will show You;
    Then go at it with all Your Heart;
    God needs You,–Note 80 percent of advice You get on this site will be from Non Believers–What ever the Advice take it to the Bible;If it does not Square with Scripture ,Trash it;
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  33. jim beam 7 Says:

    time fades ever thing . when your least expecting, a new window of opportunity will happen.
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