What advantage and disadvantage love marriage and arrange marriage I waan to do love marriage?

June 4, 2009 - 5:54 am 7 Comments

i am just 24 year and my salary 8000 pm

Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arranged marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arranged marriages. Most of us feel that arranged marriage is the concept of Indian society, history tells us that arranged marriages existed even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arranged marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arranged marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society, but this change was seen only among the educated and high society, the rural India remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriages still persist.

Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their partner without any of social pressures. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society and are now adopting to a concept of Arranged Love Marriages.

If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both have certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concepts is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend your life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both, and this can only happen when you spend time together. People may argue that even after knowing each other for so long why people get divorced after a love marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover some thing new about your partner.

In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. Most people think that those who go for arranged marriage are not in an advantageous position, but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other so the social and family pressures are less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.

Arranged marriages, offer more protection and security to the women as the parents decide the family. Parents make use of their maturity and decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. >>r

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7 Responses to “What advantage and disadvantage love marriage and arrange marriage I waan to do love marriage?”

  1. CA pp jain Says:

    If yur salary is 8000 how are you going to feed your wife if you go for love marriage
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  2. Rox Says:

    i think salary, lifestyle matters when u r going 4 arrange marrige.
    In love matters truelymeaning is sacrification if u r truely love anyone then u r partner can manage with what u have and further beacause of u r love u r trying to give better life to u r partener and then atomatically new ideas for happylife u r persuing get shared by u r partner its my experience. So go for it dont listen to anyone follow u r heart best of luck…
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  3. CHAKAT Says:

    Love marriage comes out of your affection and love to somebody which happens. its like advertising here, that you want a love marriage. How that can be created or purchased?
    Look out for your mate.
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  4. Mochalatte Says:

    What's so wrong with letting your parents pick for you?

    Is an arranged marriage based on money or do the parents get to know the girl and decide the person is best for you?

    Don't get confused by the "american way" of getting married because the majority of them end in divorce anyway.

    Arranged marriages have a much higher rate of survival and are much more stable than ours.

    I wish I'd had an "arranged" marriage!
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  5. zaira Says:

    well..here there are no aranged marriage..that was probbaly a century ago..who knows..here an aranged marriage..is rather a recomanded marriage. i mean smb knows a person..ok..and knows you..and the third peron thinks that you both are suitable somehow to one another and it could be a good marriage oportunity for you..and introduce you the other person..but just a kind of recomened person..smb to whom you can trust..reliable….that is an arranged marriage her..not for money..although it could happen that that man has a good job..etc..but the point is that smb reliable who has good qualities is recomanded..i mean ..while when you meet smb you don't know from the first time who he/she is…and it happens that girls fall in love and the boys leave them with children etc..while in a..''arranged marriage'' you can rely on that person..since he/she it is recomnanded..they both want to make aquaitance know about the other..like to know them..etc..it is like you say..i have a gorgeous cousin..look..so and so…and they both are serious persons wanting to marry..etc…probably they alasso did arranged marriage…meaning financially also..but this meant also that the persons had good qualities..also..a rich man would like to marry a nice decent woman..etc..and that woman..knows that that man is serious etc..things like that..i don't know what to say about it really..if it works or not..i think if the person is honourable you could agree to meet her/him..but generally people preffer to know smb ..so..without nothing aranged..or recomanded by other etc..but when some want to marry..or look for smb ..they could agree to be introduced to be met by smb else smb else knows..etc..
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  6. Rahul Says:

    Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arranged marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arranged marriages. Most of us feel that arranged marriage is the concept of Indian society, history tells us that arranged marriages existed even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arranged marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arranged marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society, but this change was seen only among the educated and high society, the rural India remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriages still persist.

    Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their partner without any of social pressures. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society and are now adopting to a concept of Arranged Love Marriages.

    If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both have certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concepts is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend your life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both, and this can only happen when you spend time together. People may argue that even after knowing each other for so long why people get divorced after a love marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover some thing new about your partner.

    In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. Most people think that those who go for arranged marriage are not in an advantageous position, but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other so the social and family pressures are less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.

    Arranged marriages, offer more protection and security to the women as the parents decide the family. Parents make use of their maturity and decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. >>r
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  7. sweetu Says:

    does it matter whether u take poison or jump from the 20th floor to commit suicide. ???????
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