I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years and am wondering how much longer I have to suffer. Can somebody with similar experience tell me how long it took for them?
It depends on a lot of things- you, him, the relationship, etc.
I dated someone for a year and dropped them in a day.
Dated another person for 8 months and also dropped them in a day.
I dated someone for a month, and although the pain is gone, my heart is still with him, and I think about him still sometimes.
4 years is a long time. It might take you 5 months to really stop hurting, and maybe a year to let go. It might take you 6 months to be completely over it. It all depends. But there are things you can do to ease your pain. Go out as much as you can and have a good time. Stay single and keep yourself busy at all times so you don;t find yourself thinking about him / dwelling in the pain. After a month or 2, go on a date with no attatchments. Flirt with other guys. Putting yourself out in the world will help you get over it faster, staying at home and crying will only worsen the situation.
Everyone goes through this and gets through it. You're not alone, and you will get over him. Even if you feel like you never, ever will- trust me, you will.